Blog! Dating & Realtionships from a BDSM Perspective.
I have heard of this sector. I have heard… and it is certainly a little frivolous and perhaps even at times a lot frivolous! I must say however, having had a little look at the scene purely as a writer on assignment, it really is quite cleanly and softly put together if you see what I mean! This is the realm of fantasy and well play acting and you know dressing up and many many people love dressing up, you only have to think about fancy dress parties and how it does actually prove very exciting for everyone! I believe an aspect of this applies even to births deaths and marriages, I mean people get on their best clothes which they don’t wear everyday and so the “event” so to speak is made special because of the effort and quite simply by putting on clothes that we don’t normally wear which are also of higher quality. In that way it is also in its own way a tribute to the child or couple getting married or a loved one passing.
BDSM itself is very popular and really anyone can analyse their own life and perhaps find the little seeds of BDSM!
What is BDSM? & Is BDSM a popular dating sub sector?
Well! BDSM is a sector of erotica, so actually its a particular practice of sex and sexuality. There is an entire industry around this and even sites like My BDSM Hookups and dating services! BDSM is a practice of eroticism, which regularly includes bondage +discipline, dominance + submission, sadism + masochism, and other personal, couple or group interpersonal relationships, which can be very short lived or very long term and even lifelong. BDSM is practised by loving traditional couples just as much as it is practiced by those whose nature is polygamous. In a nutshell it is fairly well captured by the term BDSM which literally mean B “bondage”, D “Discipline”, S “Sadism” & M “Masochism”. It is erotic because it is practiced by people who amongst other things derive sexual pleasure from those things, from Bondage, Discipline etc (for example spanking!).
The dating aspect of BDSM is very loving for those involved! Imagine wanting these experiences and then finding a professional run website that provides dating services for adults in a safe way! Many such websites exist and you know this is not a knew phenomenon by any means! You only need to think of the Burlesque cabaret shows in Berlin even almost 100 years ago! This is dating taken to a level of fashion and style also associated with BDSM, Bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism have fashions associated with them and the dating experience is very very passionate for people who explore and enjoy this dating sub sector, with deeply loving relationships maintained over many many years. For example a dominatrix could use a BDSM website to be contacted by those who’s sexual desire is to be dominated. So having dating websites for people to locate dates around these practices is tremendously useful and serves a very positive purpose!
As mentioned earlier a thriving industry has emerged online with people locating like minded groups and individuals even through a simple internet search search such as “bdsm dates“, and you know actually it really is very exciting for people and this is not particularly serious or dangerous in any way, people are not participating in order be harmed, so it is playful in many ways and there is also an entire sense of costume for many! The culture of fashion goes hand in hand with rubber fetishes, with neck hold and chains and dog collars and you know all that range of produce which is readily for sale also!
So a simple search online will reveal websites that cater for dating in this sector!
Be safe, analyse and conduct your own thorough research and practice the safety protocols of online dating and physical meet ups!
Very Best Wishes!
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